retirement some of us tend to look forward to the future. Others of us
tend to look back over our own life. Either way, we make
as to the way we spend our retirement years. Making no decisions is a
choice we try to avoid. For some of us, it isn't easy.
is a time of year when we try to change our lives for the
better. Exercise is touted as one of the most important
contributors to good health. We know that when we stop moving, we are
in trouble. What to do?
Not having someone to
talk to can be
a problem for anyone. As we age
conversational isolation can be a more severe problem. We seem to only
engage with the TV - and it's always just one way. No one listens to
a risk by definition always implies a bit of danger; we could get hurt.
Doing something new and different always includes this factor. We
could fail. It can also make life a bit more interesting and exciting.
What to do?
it like to attend a Winter Olympics? We are having that experience now.
So far...even for retired people and for people that are not "rich" it
is a great experience! Sometimes life's exotic treats don't lie far
we choose to be happy and have it really happen? Here is a story of one
person who did just that. K. Eileen Allen has written a book entitled
"I Like Being Old". Not that I'm "old" or that you are. But we can all
learn something from her. Here is what I took away from her story
thing that enhances everything, including retirement, is good friends.
Keeping that fact in the front of our minds might make
much more fulfilling. Unfortunately, friends have a way of
What to do?
notice how other people sometimes do the most interesting things?
We can find examples and inspiration for what makes for a
retirement from others. Sometimes it is our own friends who help
illustrate the range of possibilities.
if and when to retire are questions many of us wrestle. The pros and
the cons can battle on endlessly. Here are some of the reasons my wife
and I used making our decision. We are very happy with the
After retirement we are
the deciding what to do
with the rest of our lives. How do we address this question? Are there
any guidelines or suggestions? One constant seems to be universal: the
desire for happiness. We had best know wherein it lies if we
hope to find it.
to do many different things with our lives. Our choices are often times
determined by our imagination and our concept of what will bring us the
most happiness. Here are a couple of examples that illustrate the
decision making process.
mean many more trips to the doctor. Sometimes we don't
agree with the doctor's diagnosis and desire a second opinion. Here is
example that illustrates the importance of asserting ourselves when it
to our health.
road trip requires some planning. It may be best for
of us to slow down a bit as we set about to enjoy a vacation. It's
something to consider. Sometimes less is more and in respect to travel
it is absolutely true.
tell your grandchildren how important it is to tell
the truth? We all know that it doesn't pay to live a lie. Sometimes
truth doesn't fit our fancy but we know we have to deal with reality in
Working with your hands
brings a certain sense of satisfaction that many retired people pursue.
Sitting behind a desk and tapping computer keys just doesn't seem to
bring the same sense of achievement as fashioning a beautiful piece
of furniture, creating a work of art or building a geodesic dome.
After ending our careers
and passing through the stage of raising children many of us find
ourselves once again searching for meaning during the retirement years.
We search for something that will give meaning to our lives not just in retirement
but in our lives.
We like to think we are
on the right track if we are busy. We are a busy culture. We like to do
things. We have elevated it to new levels with multi-tasking. But what
is to be said for just sitting still and enjoying life?
We have become use to
flying around in what use to be friendly skies. Traveling by plane
isn't what it use to be. It has not only became less enjoyable but now
we find out it does a lot of damage to the environment.
Many seem to fine that
after spending a life time accumulating things they serve only as an
anchor when we want to be free. Perhaps retirement is the perfect time
to rid ourselves of more than just our jobs.
It isn't much fun to have enough money to live well if everything around you is falling to pieces. We retired folks sure don't want the neighborhood to become a ghetto after we retire. Maybe we need to examine our attitude about paying taxes and what we get for them.
Retiring calls for trying something new. We may be ready to learn something today that has escaped us in the past; learn a foreign language, garden, paint, write or fulfill a secret wish. We can fill in the gaps.
"The unexamined life is not worth living". So said Socrates so very long ago. Eileen Allen is a living inspiration to all of us of the practicality of that thought. A recent visit with the author of "I Like Being Old" verified her beliefs and practices.
Retirement brings special challenges concerning friendship. The job is no longer there to provide an easy source for meeting new people and bringing us in daily contact with others. New sources must be explored.
Death is something we all face. Suffering at the end of life is something that can be endured or avoided. It is our choice - in some states. "You Don't Know Jack" deals with this topic in a very powerful way.
Positive thinking has its limits. To doubt it is not fashionable but is certainly reasonable. Think about all the problems you may have avoided with a little more consideration. You may have retired earlier.