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Episode 179 – What now?
knew a guy in
Another guy I know took off on a similar trip only to capsize in the South Pacific. I mean upside down; locked in the cabin with his daughter and her fiancée. Just imagine that moment: You’re battling a storm at night; flip upside-down, inside a boat, in the middle of the ocean. The boat righted itself. He sailed into the closest port; sold the boat. They all got tattooed with a special design that indicated a close call with death – a sort of circle around the wrist. They flew home. He eventually bought another boat. Still sails. Not aiming to go around the world. But still enjoys the salt air. I don’t want to mock the idea of sailing around the world. I’m sure some people do it successfully. I just don’t know any.
This is Del Lowery with Retirement Talk. The question we want to consider in this program is, “Once retired, what then?”
The world is big; the choices are endless. How can you choose the path that will bring you the greatest satisfaction or happiness?
Years ago I came across some happiness advice that has never failed me. I liked it because it worked for me and I loved the name of the originator, Baruch de Espinosa: or, Spinoza. “Spinoza knowza”, I used to tell my students.
was a brilliant guy, too brilliant for some. He eventually got
from the Jewish religion and died at a very early age – 43. Once,
on a trip to
Europe, I searched the synagogue from which he supposedly got
Spinoza claimed that every time we pursue something and think it will bring us happiness we are disappointed once we “capture the flag”, so to speak. Once we get to our goal and receive the applause, or the money, or the big house, or the large screen HDTV, we find ourselves disappointed, and many times crushed the following day. The happiness we thought would be ours is not there; and when it isn’t there, we feel let down, disappointed: and soon ask ourselves the same question; “Now what”?
Our problem lies in defining, or thinking of happiness, as a solid state; or as a position or place. It isn’t.
He claimed that happiness is a transitory state. It is found in the movement towards something: movement towards a greater state of perfection than that which we now have. It isn’t in having a better garden than we now have, but it is in the act of creating, or moving towards having the better garden. Happiness lies in making the transition; moving to a greater state of perfection.
Of course the opposite is also true. Unhappiness is going the other direction. Having our dreams dashed or moving away from a state of greater perfection to yet that of a lesser one. Sort of like trying to sail around the world and end up with a gun at your head or tipped upside down in the Pacific.
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