Retirement Talk

WHAT to do with the rest of your life?


Episode 489 Help!

And what should I do with my retirement? What can I do with my retirement Those question are basic to this podcast. I have published over 400 podcasts on the topic and I thought I had touched on almost all the questions there might be excluding money. I did discuss money a little bit a long time ago. It was not a topic with which I wanted to deal. There are scads of books, magazines and podcasts that deal with money and retirement. I just checked retirement podcasts on iTunes and found all of the ones listed ahead of this one concern money. There are many other concerns that retired people have other than money and I wanted and still want to deal with those.

This is Retirement Talk. I am Del Lowery.

Just this past week I got an email from Bryan, a loyal listener to these podcast, who had a question I had never considered. He wanted to know if I could share stories of folks who have retired with a dependent and mentally handicapped adult child.

Bryan is 50 years old and looking forward to retiring early and starting a new chapter. He believes that there might be much to learn from others who have been down this road in the past. It could help him avoid many pitfalls and help him find a path forward.

I've entitled this podcast "Help" in hope that some of you listeners have stories of experiences you may have had that will help others. It isn't much to ask. Bryan and I just want you to write up your experience and send in an email. I might read it word for word or paraphrase and rewrite it in a way that might be a bit more meaningful conjoined with what others have to share.

All of us have some sort of personal difficulties in life. Some are more sever than others. It is this area of difficulty that I am looking for to pass on to my listeners. It is the coping mechanism that you may have used that either failed or succeeded that we are looking for. It would be good to be aware of those that worked and those that didn't.

Here is a brief example: Our children's first grade teacher called us one day and asked if it would be alright if she named her first born boy after our son. I guess she liked him as a student. What an honor.

Her son was born blind. And her method of raising him was to help him help himself. She tried to raise him as if he was not visual impaired. He ended up doing very well in normal classroom settings. As he grew older he would take the city bus and find his way around town on his own. He became a state champion wrestler and then went off to college.

She studied working with the blind so much that she took a Ph.D. In the area. She became a specialist in the State of Washington in the education and the visually impaired. I would say she made the most of the hand she was dealt.Stories like this are inspiring. What seemed a hardship and challenge turned into a new world for those involved.

Bryan is facing an unusual retirement with a dependent, mentally handicapped adult child to care for. Maybe someone out there has experience or knows someone who has confronted a similar situation.

It is my hope that many of you will take the time to sit down and write of personal experiences that might help others who are retired or moving into retirement. Stories of what failed and what worked well. What helps one may very well help others. Email the stories to

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